It can be difficult to date someone who is depressed. It hurts to be powerless to stop someone you care about from suffering. It can be perplexing to hear the person you esteem and appreciate the most speak extremely negatively about themselves and in a way that doesn’t at all reflect how you see them. You may feel helpless and unsure of how to react due to their erroneous but persistent belief that they have accomplished nothing or have little to live for. These all-or-nothing, binary thought processes frequently characterize depressive thinking. The voices of depression speak loudly and persuasively in the minds of individuals who experience it. Couples struggle to communicate since there isn’t much room for reason. Here are 5 proven ways to date a depressed partner
1 Make or keep the right equilibrium.
In partnerships, we must constantly decide whether we should prioritize our personal needs, the needs of our partners, or the needs of the union. We typically feel content when we are able to balance this nicely. However, it’s simple to lose that equilibrium when one spouse is ill since we want to make them feel better. We prioritize meeting their needs before our own. For a while, this is both absolutely essential and suitable. But when our relationship is afflicted with a condition that persists for a protracted period of time, we must learn how to strike a balance between looking after ourselves and continuing to help our companions. Otherwise, the relationship can be in danger.
2 Learn how to comfort your partner through a difficult time.
To care for our partners and feel good about that caring is one of our relational needs. When the support you provide your partner is rarely appreciated or useful, you eventually become exhausted and shut off. You might need to reevaluate what it means to be supportive of your partner and alter the way you provide care. Just like I can’t “cure” my partner’s Crohn’s condition, you can’t “repair” the depression either. You will get frustrated when you provide care in the goal of curing (or fixing) your partner’s disease. However, you can provide help as a form of care: Being sympathetic, understanding, accepting, and empathic are all examples of how to be your partner’s support system.
3 Pay attention to the good.
Instead of focusing entirely on how your partner is while they are ill, it might be useful to remind yourself of the numerous reasons you care about them when times are tough. One method to support yourself in your relationship is to deliberately focus on your partner’s positive traits.
4. Show sympathy.
Keep in mind that your partner is ill. They can’t just brush it off, but it isn’t their fault. Consider how difficult it is to deal with an illness while you practice being empathetic. Keep in mind how resilient you must be to endure being ill and in discomfort.
5. Use your partner’s new language to converse with them.
You can both learn a new language to help you communicate in a way that strengthens your bond and helps you feel heard and valued. When your partner is ill, intimacy may seem impossible, but there are still ways you may feel close. You can start putting new communication techniques into practice to aid your spouse in picking them up as well. Here is some conversational language that you and your partner can use, even if your partner is depressed. This is only one example of a conversation between participants who have exercised new communication skills; keep in mind that there are many different directions a conversation can take.)